Chapter Five · Before You Fly Away

Negotiate Your Salary

Before You Fly Away
Mom & Dad's Guide to Help You Thrive
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01Learn It

What you need to know before you negotiate anything

Negotiating is expected — not rude

Most first offers are not the employer's best offer. Hiring managers expect negotiation and rarely rescind an offer because someone asked professionally. The worst that can happen is they say no — and you're exactly where you started. Not negotiating is the only guaranteed loss.

More than salary is negotiable

If the salary is fixed, you can often negotiate: signing bonus, extra PTO days, remote work flexibility, start date, title, professional development budget, or a 90-day salary review. Always ask what's possible — not just what the number is.

Never give a number first

When asked "What are your salary expectations?" deflect politely: "I'm flexible and open to discussing what's appropriate for the role. What's the budgeted range?" Whoever names a number first is at a disadvantage. If you must go first, always anchor high — you can always come down, you can never go up.

Timing matters

Don't bring up salary in a first interview unless they do. The ideal moment is after you have a written offer in hand. That's when your leverage is highest — they've already decided they want you. Take 24–48 hours to review any offer before responding.

Know your three numbers before you negotiate

Walk into every negotiation knowing: your floor (the minimum you'll accept), your target (what you actually want based on research), and your stretch (the high anchor you'll open with). You'll calculate all three in the next section.

02Research It

Know your market value before you negotiate anything

You cannot negotiate confidently without data. Research what others in your role, location, and experience level are earning — from multiple sources. Then you can say "based on my research" and mean it.

Research These Sources — Links Below
Job Title You're Researching
Location
Salary Range Low End

10th–25th percentile

Salary Range Median

50th percentile

Salary Range High End

75th–90th percentile

What Sources Did You Use & What Did You Find?
Given Your Experience Level, Where Do You Fall in This Range?

03Your Three Numbers

Know your floor, your target, and your stretch before you pick up the phone

Floor
Minimum I'll Accept
$
The lowest number you'll say yes to. Walk away from anything below this.
Target
What I Actually Want
$
Based on your research. This is your real goal — realistic and defensible with data.
Stretch
My Opening Ask
$
Your high anchor. Ambitious but not absurd — typically 10–15% above your target.
Why Is Your Floor Your Floor?
Why Is Your Target Your Target?

04Script It

Write out exactly what you'll say — word for word

Improvising a salary negotiation is how you leave money on the table. Write your script, practice it out loud until it sounds natural, and you'll walk in ready for anything. Use the example scripts below as a starting point — then write your own in the fields below.

Situation 01 — They Make an Offer
How to respond without accepting or rejecting immediately

"Thank you so much — I'm really excited about this opportunity and the team. I'd like to take 24 hours to review the full offer carefully before responding. Is that okay?"

Situation 02 — Counter-Offering
How to ask for more, professionally and confidently

"I'm very excited about this role and I want to make it work. Based on my research into market rates for this position in [city], and the experience I bring in [specific skill], I was hoping we could get to [stretch number]. Is there any flexibility there?"

Situation 03 — They Say the Salary is Fixed
How to pivot to other negotiables

"I completely understand. In that case, I'd love to explore whether there's any flexibility on [PTO / signing bonus / remote work / 90-day salary review]. Is any of that something we could discuss?"

Situation 04 — They Push Back
How to hold your position without burning the relationship

"I really appreciate you working with me on this. I want to be transparent — [target number] is where I need to land to make this work for me. I'm confident I'll bring real value to your team, and I'd love to find a way to make this happen."

Write Your Personal Counter-Offer Script

Read it out loud after writing it. If it sounds stiff or unnatural, rewrite it. Then practice until you can say it calmly and confidently without reading.

What Will You Do If They Say No to Everything?

05Refine With Claude

Let AI polish your script and prep you for pushback

Once you've written your script above, generate a Claude prompt below. Claude will refine your counter-offer script, make it sound natural and confident, and give you 5 likely responses from the employer — with suggested replies for each.

06Mock Negotiation

Practice with Mom or Dad before the real thing

Ask Mom or Dad to role-play as a hiring manager. Give them the offer number below and have them call you on the phone — salary negotiations often happen by phone, not in person. Use your script. They should push back at least twice before agreeing to anything.

The Offer Number to Give Mom or Dad

Give them a number below your target so you actually have to negotiate up. That's the point.

Mock Negotiation Self-Checklist
  • I thanked them for the offer before countering
  • I asked for 24 hours before jumping to a counter
  • I cited market research when making my ask
  • I named my stretch number — not my target — as the opening ask
  • I stayed calm when they pushed back
  • I didn't apologize for asking for more money
  • When salary was stuck, I pivoted to other negotiables
  • I knew my floor and didn't go below it
  • I closed professionally — whether I got what I wanted or not

07Reflect On It

What did this teach you?

How Did the Mock Negotiation Feel?
What Was the Hardest Part?
What Would You Do Differently in a Real Negotiation?
Based on your research, what salary will you target for your first real job offer?

This becomes part of your end-of-year presentation. You'll stand up and say "based on my research, I will negotiate for X because..."